My Korean Adventure

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Hi Ladies living in Korea!!!!

Thanks for taking the time to read my posting.

My name is Matthew and I’m a sincere gentleman, who lives in Seoul, Korea! I wanted to write something here, because I guess like you, I too would like to meet somebody new to experience new things in life with and enjoy some happiness together. 

Well, even though I am not a perfect guy, I hope you will still consider me….because I’m a very fun, adventurous , cultured and polite person and sincerely hope to find similar qualities in a lovely lady, hopefully like you? :)

About me… I’m in my late 30’s and I was born and raised in Sydney, Australia, so I classify myself more as a Westerner and was brought up in the Western culture of treating women respectfully.. Even though I may be much older than you…I am still really young at heart and have alot of enthusiasm and energy for life! 

Well, there is something specific I am looking for here….and that is … I am looking for a SECOND wife. 

OK, I know you are already thinking weird thoughts about me …so let me give you some more explanation about why I am looking for this kind of situation.

Firstly, as I’m sure you don’t want anybody to decieve or lie to you, so I should be honest with you and tell you that I’ve already married a Korean woman, but we are currently not enjoying any romance or have any attraction to each other anymore. 

The reason that my relationship has become so bad with my wife is very simple. It is because she is greedy, manipulative and only cares for herself and her own wellbeing. Unlike what a normal wife should do, she does not make any effort at all to care for me….all she worries about is that I give her money. She also wants to be the boss of our relationship and expects me to do everything she wants, often throwing a violent temper when she doesn’t get her own way. That is not the way a happy marriage should work and to be honest, I’m sick of it! 
It’s a loveless marriage now and even though I have tried hard for 7 years, my wife continues to have a stubborn nature and has only cares for material things. My wife has no interest in sex anymore or even trying anything remotely romantic. It makes me so frustrated…because 
I am a human being and after my busy day, I have needs that need to be fulfilled.

So, of course I often feel lonely and long for the companionship of a woman, who I can really love and care for. In my opinion, life is too short to care about what others may think, so to be honest, I’m looking for a girl who is willing to not judge me…but willing to be a life companion and share our common interests together. I believe I have a lot of love and affection to offer the right woman and I don’t want to live a life of regrets, where I couldn’t meet a girl who I was really attracted to and cared about. 

You and many others may ask me, why I don’t divorce. Well, that’s obviously the easy solution to the matter but I am a religious person, brought up to be Christian and in the Bible, it clearly says that any man who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits a sin “adultery”. Many people tell me it is just an outdated commandment and to just get a divorce and get it over with, but since Christianity is the religion I have decided to follow, I truly want to follow the word of God, as it stands. I mean, according to my beliefs, why would 
want to risk my eternal fate by acting on what the world thinks is moral for me to do? That would be crazy! Having said that, I am a human too and don’t want to live a loveless life forever.

So, I have been searching for solutions…..and the only way I can think of, is to find a woman, who can love and accept me as I am…..and who is possibly willing to be my second wife. I know this idea sounds crazy and most women in the world would instantly reject it as being immoral. But I think if you think about it carefully… I don’t think that having a second wife is such an “evil” idea.

Yes, of course infedelity is obviously a sin, if a man or woman has sex with another partner, besides their husband or wife. But if a person has a second wife, it is not a sin because that woman is his new wife, even if the “marriage” is not accepted in modern day society. Now with modern day governments trying to force their own standards of morality on others by only allowing a man to legally have one wife….. it is only encouraging many people in unhappy marriages to be secretive and have affairs. I prefer to do things the honest way, and explain to you honestly my situation and my feelings without any deceptions or deceit.

Basically, what I really want „„is a SECOND chance in life…. a long term friendship/relationship with a girl that can become so strong…..that we will want to be together, no matter what obstances there might be. I want to enjoy an adventurous life to the fullest with a special woman, who loves intimacy, loves romance, loves passion, and to be honest… loves to be open minded about sex, to try and keep our marriage life healthy and exciting! 

It’s hard to describe to you what exactly will happen if you can agree to what I am asking. First of all, if you are not a Korean, you must be willing to eventually relocate and live with me here in Seoul, Korea. It’s not an easy choice, especially if you have many loved ones back in your home country who you will miss. We will then need to have a symbolic/secret wedding ceremony to show our committment to each other, so that any future love making between us will not be a sin before God, since we have said our vows and are not just sleeping around.

After that is done, what I can tell you is that, firstly, I will do my best to make this arrangement work out for you as much as possible, by giving you a life of no pressure, no arguments, no jealousies and no drama..I just want us to be true and sincere to each other. I will make sure that I spend alot of quality time with you, to enjoy our closeness together. I like to be adventurous and try new things.„,such as different food and activities. If you decide to come to Korea and be my partner, we can always try out new restaurants together, visit new and exciting places together and try new things that we have both never done before…

I am also very financially secure and capable of looking after you and providing you with a comfortable life. You will never have to work or do anything stressful again! However having said that, though I have been blessed with wealth, I want to find a partner who would rather us help other people in need with our money, than to live a life of luxury and continuous shopping of meaningless things. I want to find a partner who can be content with just a simple lifestyle, though I will be sure to give her alot of treats now and then, to show my love to her!

I would also give you alot of freedoms to do what you want to do in your life (unlike many other Korean guys, who once they marry, like to be extremely possessive of their wife and force her to do whatever he wants her to do). You will never need my permission to do anything you want to do. I will trust you completely. 

Most of all, I would treat a wonderful woman such as yourself like my queen - that is with total love, devotion and respect. I would love to give you massages when you feel tired, or cheer you up with a humurous joke and a delicious meal, (I love to cook!) when you feel down.

If I ever am lucky enough to find a second wife, I want to do everything step by step again….from the romantic proposal with a diamond ring, having a meaningful ceremony, to having an unforgettable honeymoon and having the most intimate love making on our first night. And then the next day, when we both wake up next to each other and look into each other’s eyes, we realize that we were meant to be together and that we make each other feel complete.These are the things I never experienced in my first marriage, and I dream to do all this with my second wife, before I die or get to old to have that chance. 

Most importantly, being my second wife means that I will commit myself to be responsible for you for your ENTIRE life, NOT like an affair where we just play around and then I throw you out the door when you get older. It will be a serious relationship, where we both strive daily 
to be the best partners we can for each other.

I know what I have told you about me already being married is probably uncomfortable for you, so if you feel you don’t wish to get to know me, of course I understand and I wish you all the best in finding a suitable partner for yourself!

However, if you would like to get to know me, I appreciate your willingness to listen and to not judge me, like many others have. 

Yes of course, I don’t expect anybody to agree or accept what I am saying immediately. Relationships take time to develop and hopefully we might be able to find that “connection” and “spark”, which will make us want to overcome all barriers sometime in the future. 
But for now, I’d very much love the chance to get to know you more, and being given the chance to discuss our life experiences and what we want to achieve in our lives would be great!

If you could be interested in my proposal, please write back to me with some details about you and a photo. Please also let me know if there was anything in this message that you didn’t like or felt uncomfortable about and we can discuss it. I will also send a photo in reply.

Also, if you have any questions you would like to ask about me, please feel free to email me and I will get back to you ASAP and answer all your questions honestly.

I hope to hear from some of you soon and if you are also willing, let’s start to become good friends and see where this journey takes us!

Matthew 

“Please also let me know if there was anything in this message that you didn’t like or felt uncomfortable about and we can discuss it.” ALL OF IT.

Wow.  The grammar was pretty good!  The proposal…not so much.  At least he’s honest??